What's the matter with me??!?!?

I'm independent, no children ( but wants them), I am professionally employed, educated and I feel I have a good personality. I don't club, I drink socially and I love having a good time. I don't act stuck up and neither am I high maintenance. I can be a bit of tomboy. I love muscle cars, street bikes...etc.... I dress up for work and play, but just like being casual too. I'm 28 and I feel like i'm old and alone. Why can't I meet a guy that's compatiable? I don't like to club or anything. ( I don't see the point). My weekends consists of me going to Blockbusters,cleaning and shopping when there's extra $$$. I sometimes just cry myself to sleep. That's not healthy to me. Is there something wrong with me, what am I doing or not doing??? I'm so ready to find someone and be in a committed relationship and have just settle down...

Where were you all my life?

try MATCH or one of the others
How about MYSpace?
I get a lot of hits on that site!

Your just very independant. Just go to a club every once in a while even if you don't like to because getting out will solve your problems

What have you tried as far as meeting people goes? There's nothing wrong with you, but for some of us it can be difficult to meet new people. I know it was for me; I don't socialize very much, I don't go to clubs or parties - and you don't meet guys just going to work and coming home every day. Thank goodness for online dating - I met a few very interesting people this way, and ultimately this is how I met my husband. He is the same way as me - kind of an unsocial guy who likes solitary activities, and doesn't go bar-hopping or clubbing. He also had a lot of trouble meeting potential mates, but then he decided to try online dating, and he met me! The "right person" isn't just gonna land on your lap - you gotta get some exposure; let your friends know you're single and looking, try online personals, join clubs, get involved in your local church if you're religious. Be pro-active - dating can be a "real job".

P.S. It's funny that one of the posters commented that internet dating was not "traditional" - it's actually becoming so commonplace that it seems that most of my younger friends met their significant others online.

Most people never find the "one" when they're looking. Maybe your not seeing everyone around you, he could be looking at you over the movies at blockbuster. :) Do you have friends that could set you up with someone?? Don't cry yourself to sleep at night, your dream will happen, but dreams never happen when you expect them too.

When you want to attract something into your life , make sure your actions don't contradict your desires

Don't make your home a place just for you, spreading all your belongings all over the place. leave some room for him to put his things.that is, make space in your closets for his clothes.
make sure that your emotions are in alignment with your thoughts. Do not wish from a place of hope, but from a place of gratitude ( as if it has already happened).

Seriously, try the Personals. That's how I found my husband and I could not ask for a better person. You might have to weed out the jerks..but there are some good guys that are looking as well.

unless you plan to meet your spouse at work, you aren't doing anything to meet people; they aren't going to come knocking at your door, you have to get busy.....join a club, take a class, volunteer, whatever you like doing get out there and do it......there is nothing wrong with you.......now get off the computer and get your butt in gear......

Some men are intimidated by "independent" women. There is nothing wrong with you, you just haven't met your "Mr. Right" yet. Trust me when you least expect it he will come walking into your life and literally sweep you off your feet. Don't rush, you are still young and have plenty of time. And don't settle just because you are lonely at times, you know you don't have to be alone to be lonely.

Be happy you have your freedom! People have been fighting for freedom since the beginning of time!

What are you doing to meet new people.You have socialize with others to find someone.I agree the club is NOT where you want to meet high quality people for a serious relationship.Do you have family or friends that can set you up with someone? What about church? Meet someone at places you like to go to.Go to a muscle car show when one is in town.Guys will be there!! You will find someone when you least expect it.

Well you sound like my sister. She is beautiful and employed, no kids, and independent. But she was just so ready to commit that she was like wanting that special guy instead of just waiting to be swept of her feet. But she tried eharmony it worked for her. If not just stop expecting for that guy. Just wait and when you least expect Prince Charming will come. It will all be so spontaneous.

You will find someone don't worry. It's probably just because you are so rational and normal...it's hard to find a nice guy when you won't settle for an ahole.
Trust me I have a friend that's your age and similiar...she can't find a decent guy.

sounds to me like you are not going anywhere where there are available people - if you have drinks go to a bar with people who are similar to you there are many bars where people arent rowdy and maintain a casual social drinking atmosphere -if you are working in a place that is new to you and you havent made any new friends go out for some drinks and a bite to eat with some people at work for a couple of hours -staying in the house watching blockbuster and going shopping is not going to do it - invite someone a gf who is also single to eat at a chic restaurant on the weekends at least you not alone and your out there -that is where guys go today -also the internet may not be a bad idea my neighbor met his wife on the net -I really dont know how that works though and what rules there are to follow

You just haven't met the right guy, yet. Good for you for not settling for less.

It is possible you might want to meet more people so you have a better chance of finding someone. Since you don't like "clubbing", you could try joining groups that server your interest (like antique auto or streetbike clubs, for example) or going to such activities. You will make new friends with a common interest that you can talk about, and some of them will be guys who, once you become acquaintances, will move on to be friends or maybe more. Other groups or events that match your interests that you haven't mentioned will work, also.

Just focus on making friends and having the kind of fun you like, and the right guy will turn up, I'm certain.

Don't force it. It comes in time. You just have to relax and be yourself so you're ready when the right person comes along. Crying is healthy. Being alone is hard, but it's worse to find yourself in a relationship that's not right for you just for the sake of having a relationship especially if kids become involved. It comes when you least expect it like in the frozen foods aisle or at the laundry mat. Try something you've never done before. Go bowling or go rollerblading at a nice park. Have fun! Nothing's more attractive than being comfortable in your own skin.

Well how do you expect to meet someone staying in and watching movies? Go where the muscle cars & street bikes are, go to the car & bike shows and if you see someone attractive, talk to him! You have to put the effort out! Have friends set you up. Look online, get out there and do what you have to do to meet more men! Feeling sorry for yourself isn't going to help!

u must not be good looking...well u might be...

instead of that stuff...start hitting the gym...get into shape a little better :)

and u will meet a guy in the gym....its a simple thing waiting to happen

its also fun to do :) i forgot all about my lonelyness...

nothing is wrong with you!!! Stop trying so hard :) I know- not the most helpful...and it sounds a bit cliche'...but you find love when you aren't looking for it...

or....try online dating!

truly- I highly recommend it...you will kiss a lot of frogs but you may just find your "one"

...sometimes and with some men- they are intimidated by an independant woman...you need to find someone who will praise and appreciate your independence- trust me, they are out there!!

Have you tried internet dating? A friend of mine met the love of her life there. It's not traditional, but I think it works sometimes.

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Well you sound good to me, but you don't get out much, from your description.

You could buy the magazine for muscle cars (whatever they are) and look in the ads section or write to the letters section. Tell them you're a fan and ask if someone will come with you to a muscle car function. I presume they have meetings and rallies.

You could ask to meet a group of girls if you're nervous about your safety and agree to share the driving and the fuel costs etc. They'll know some guys .

I'd rather go to a club than cry myself to sleep. You won't find a man while you're asleep and they're not going to come knocking at your door if they don't know who you are.

Get out there girl. Live a bit.

Nothing at all is wrong with you! Are there any clubs you can join to meet guys? You say you like cars, etc. There must be some type of "car club" or something where you can go and hang out with guys with similar interests. Are there any guys at your workplace who have friends they can set you up with?

You have to meet good men at clubs. Try involving yourself in activites to meet people. Singles ministry at church, fitness classes, group sports....Hang in there sweetie, you'll find someone, it's just a matter of patience.

getting upset about it probably doesn't help the issue..

I believe fully that in the scheme of things, when a person is working too hard to make something happen, it generally does not. We make mistakes when we don't roll with life.
It doesn't mean you won't meet someone, it means if you push the issue you might jump into something you wish you'd not.

My take would be do things you enjoy, muscle cars, going to the gun club, street bikes, Winter tends to rob enjoying those activities. Get in your Cuda, or what ever and cruise to the drag strip.

Drinking and clubing is not a good place to hang, you might consider finding a person where you enjoy your lifestyle.

Clubs generally attract people intent on drinking and getting laid.
28 is NOT old!! But it sounds as if your clock is ticking. Do things that make the clock nothing more then background noise and enjoy life. I wish I were your age and know then what I know now. I would have done a lot of things differently.

I married someone who I met at work and we've had problems because of substantial differences in values and interests, had I do to over again I would have steered things a bit differently.

Been married mostly happily for nearing 20 years, I believe with my heart that there is a pair for everyone. Don't compromise your values for expedience.

For one, stop being so hard on yourself and stop worrying that you won't find anyone. Those are two things that are making you not find someone, but don't worry, the right is out there for you. You just have to live life to its fullest while you have the time because once you have that special someone, your life will be all about them! Live it up girl, while you can!

Good Luck!

You've explained it already.You're only going out to boring places where the odds of finding someone interesting is what-10% and when shopping let's say -0% unless you're a lesbian. You only socialize with people you already know and don't see a point of going out to crowded places where everyone are going for fun and are prepared to meet each other.Especially if you're trying to find somebody your age. I guess,that's the only problem.

nothing wrong with you at all! =)

be glad you have not settled for less than you want/need/deserve!

the right one will come along...

good luck! =)

There is nothing at all wrong with you.

You need to get out of the house, out of blockbuster, and into places you are likely to meet men who share your interests. If you like movies, go to the movies. If you like museums, go. Join an organization of professionals or a club (lots of car clubs everywhere). You are not old, you are mature.There is a difference, and nothing at all wrong with mature. There are lots of us out here looking for a woman just like you. It took me 48 years of living to find my soul mate and was worth the wait.

This is the advice that was given me: The fates, karma, god, and luck are not getting ready to drop your perfect mate in your lap. You gotta get in the pot to be part of the soup.

God bless grandma!

I met my husband on the Internet because my time was so limited. Also, perhaps your standards are set too "perfect." No one is perfect and the imperfection of others can be their most endearing quality. Just examine what it is you want and if it is realistic in today's society. Being an independent and strong woman sort of sets you in your ways. This could be a very unconscious move on your part. Open your mind to men you may not have thought about dating. I am not saying you need to date a felon or a perv, LOL... it may just be that your "search terms" are too restricted. Good luck!

nothings wrong with u. Ur time will come. And when it does ur gonna wish u were single again. Aint no happiness no where.