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Appropriate length of consequence/punishment? |
We were riding our bikes when my 4 yr old needed to stop to rest. My 7 yr old daughter & her friend were ahead of us so I told them to stop. My daughter heard me & I heard her yell to her friend to stop. They did stop & I turned around to adjust my son's helmet. When I turned back around the girls were gone. I freaked out and went to look for them w/my son. We got back to the girls house (they weren't there) so I left my son there and went out to find them. They were on a street crying. It was dark by then so I got them home after telling them the horrors of doing this. Now I need to show my daughter the consequences of her actions. Is 1 week without playing with friends too long? Should we also include no TV? She normally watches about an hour a day. Considering the possible "horrors of doing this" that you pointed out, limiting contact with friends seems like a reasonable consequence. A factor in choosing the time is how often you feel the need to punish this child. Is she generally responsible and compliant? If you make this problem a 1-week limiter, will you have other more grave problems that you will have to use longer punishments. Another consideration is how much you (and her other parent) will be punished by limiting her! On that ground, I wouldn't also take away TV. An hour a day is already a very challenging choice for her and for you. TV isn't as related to the run-away incident as limiting friends is. Source(s): Mothering experience, husband a behavioral psychologist. i think a week is appropriate. and i would say no tv either because she will probably want to watch more of it since she cant play with her friends. I think her fear of abandonment and being without someone for a while is punishment enough. I'm sure she was already scared to death, a good lecture will do. I don't think she should be double jeopardized with another punishment. Just try to get them to understand your view instead of punishment. I hope this helps! 2 weeks! I think one week is good. She has to realize how dangerous it was that they took off. I might even include the no tv, although an hour a day is not a lot. I would go with just the one week without riding bikes with the friend. If she was crying when you found her, I think she got the point! |
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