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How can I get my step-son to pick up the dog poo,when my wife is buying him a new dirt bike? |
He is one suspension away from expulsion. We got him a new quad for Christmas, two years ago, and he flunked 7th. grade twice! I know what really needs to be done, but the Do-Gooders of the world would have me put away. Help!!!!!! I hate to say it but your wife is as much the culprit here as anyone. You really need to have a good heart to heart with her about this. Tell her your concerns and your reasoning behind it. It sounds like she's trying to compensate him in some way and if she keeps it up she's going to have a really bad out of control kid on her hands.He's maybe 13 now? You really don't have much time left to get a handle on this. Stop buying him things all together and make him earn the things he wants. Restrict his free time and what he does with it. After you talk to your wife and come to an understanding I think it might be a good idea to sit the son down , showing a united front and lay down the law. When he disobeys act on it immediately and stick to your guns. You'll be doing him a favour in the long run. Don't forget to say and show how much you care along with the new rules. Try and spend more time together as a family to tighten your bond with him. Do some things that he likes to do with him so that spending family time is something for him to look forward to. Good luck to you and your family .... I hope it all works out : ) You and your wife need to work as a team on this one. You also need to work on bonding with your stepson so that he learns respect for you, i know what you'd like to do, but burying him in the backyard and piling up the dog poo ain't gonna cut it, or you could start a secret war with him and tell him everytime you have to pick up the dog poo, you will be putting it in his bed! he he he You need to go with your wife to parenting classes, to learn how to work together on your son. It will help you both enormously and it may save your marriage. Take away his quad, and dirt bike, the toys he enjoys, and tell him to straighten his act or he is not getting them back. Explain to your wife, that his behavior is unexceptable, and that she needs to start makin him mind, because you are not going to go on catering to his wants and needs.. Sounds as if your wife is the one who needs discipline. She is rearing a very irresponsible son. Get ready to have him living with you and the wife forever. He will never finish school, never get a job, and never move out. Why should he when she rewards him even though he does not earn it. She needs to get a grip as she is rearing a big spoiled brat. If he is so much of a problem why have you remained married to his mother and allow him to be a problem? Haha, flunking 7th grade? Twice? He is clearly mentally disabled. Put him in a special school and let him ride the short bus. Even children with behavoural problems that barely even show up don't flunk the 7th grade once let alone twice. He probably isn't mentally capable and all the beatings in the world won't make him intelligent. Just be glad he isn't really your son. |
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