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My Girlfriend's Kid? |
I've been dating this wonderful older woman for about 8 months now and it's really good. She has a 7 year old son from a previous realtionship. Him and i get along great he even calls me "pop". I buy him lots of expensive toys and shoes and clothes without his mother telling me to. For his birthday i bought him a mini dirt bike. Now my friends tell me I'm spoiling him cause i don't have the heart to tell him no. But his mother hasn't said anything to me about it so i keep doing it. I just don't feel right disciplinting a kid who's not my own I let his mother do that. Am i doing the right thing? I think your heart is in the right place, but i think your going on about it the wrong way. spoiling a child, ruins his life as an adult. It takes the spledor out of things. Having material handed to someone there entire life makes life bland and boring. right now eveything seems great but overtime I think you will see that the child will be excited about less and less while slowly deminding more and more. lighten up on the toys and presents. Spend more time with the boy, showing him how to live life righteously, by leading him from example. He probably looks up to you and will cling to everything you say / do. Let the mother discipline his downfalls and you steer him away from them. back off a little Of course you're doing the right thing! You sound like an EXCELLENT man to both your girlfriend and her son. They're both really lucky to have met you. I agree that you shouldn't be the main disciplinarian, because he has lived 7 years without you, and his mother should really be doing that. When he's a teenager, if you're still around, that's a different story, but for now, I'd just work on building a good relationship with him and let his mom do the dirty work. lol no you are creating a Little devil talk to the mom she what she says he should love you still it correction at the age of seven he needs it but if your not that serious with the mom then stay away and let her do it You are spoiling him. He's learning to love you for what you have and what you give to him and not for who you are. Of course the mom is not going to tell you not to get him the stuff. All mothers want their children to have everything. Are you sure she's not with you for your money???/ if you and her are going to marry it would be best if you slowed down on the gifts and maybe put the money you would spend in a college fund...when two people marry and one has a child most of the gifts they would receive while dating they wouldn't get after marrying to stop the you hate me reaction you could get this is my suggestion yes but don't be a pushover |
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