How should this be handled?Should I make the friendship work or should I move on.I'm sad, but don't miss it.

2 months ago, my best friend and I had a really bad spat.I have not talked to her since.Friends for 15yrs but the past 2yrs the friendship has been very one sided.I put it on myself.I watched her kids when she needed a break and other favors(she did not reciprocate,but that's not the problem),After I had a car accident(car hit me on a scooter)she came over with a present (a perfume that was so girly and in 15 yrs that was never a gift given) and then while I'm in a cast on my arm and leg she asks if I can watch her kids for 10 min, she has to run an errand. I couldn't even answer, but like a good friend I just chased after the boys to make sure they didn't get hurt. I confronted her later and asked what she was thinking. Not much of an answer. On the day of my daughters graduation from preschool I offered to watch her son, preschool closed early and she would meet me at the ceremony. A no-show 1hour late and my husband and her fought over not being a good friend to me. It got ugly.

It's hard to determine what you are really missing about this friendship, maybe just the fact that she's been in your life for 15 years. There was something that bonded you all those years ago but people change. It sounds like you are very giving, compassionate and don't like to hurt anyone's feelings. Your friend is taking advantage of that. If you were to rekindle the friendship, there would have to be some ground rules or you would probably end up getting walked on again. It really sounds like you are just in a different place in your life than she is - may not be worth getting back into it.

Just ask her if something in her life is changed and why is it affecting your relationship...If she doesn't answer .I wouldn't bend over backwards to help her out anymore....

Move on... you don't miss it, and all she does is use you.

Next time she calls, tell her sorry, you don't have the time. Find someone better to call a friend.

You were the one that let your self be a victim. Do what you need to do to grow a back bone. Affirmations, books, prayer. Read the 7 habits of highly effective people. My guess is that it is not just your friend that treats you like that.

Make the changes that you need to make so that people will treat you with respect. Guess what - it is ok to say no once in a while.

15 years is hell of a lot to throw away. Reconnect when you are ready to - change the rules.

If your friend will not treat you as friend, then cut her off. If she will then you know you have a true friend.