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Do kids really need playdates? |
I have 2 kids(now 7 & 3.5) who've had regular playdates in spring/summers. This year, maybe I'm getting older and more classes for the kids or whatever, I find myself reluctant to schedule/monitor kids etc. My kids never ask for playdates, thought they are very happy if regular playdates start, they both play well together, spend 3-6 hrs in school M-F, and we go to the park 3-4 times a week, where there are enuf kids to play with. I've done playdates in the past to help them make 'closer' friends. didn't work. they just play well with any kid(s). So, the question is, if I skip the regular weekly playdates thing, take them to the 3-4 neighborhood parks, bike in the street, they are happy playing in the backyard, am I short-changing them and being a lazy mom? I feel they are not watching TV/video games, are getting outside, amusing themselves with minimal toys, we go to the park often, so it is OK. But the moms in my area feel like playdates are so important? It sounds as if you are doing a great job as a mom and giving your kids so many options. Do what works for you. If a playdate is your idea of a good time, then keep up with the other activities you are providing for your kids. Doesn't sound like they are couch potatoes, so I wouldn't be too concerned. Not at all...while its good interaction for the kids, if they are getting it elsewhere then don't worry about it. In my opinion, most playdates are more for the moms to get together to chat while the kids play. If you don't feel like going, then don't guilt yourself about it. Playdates are so cheesy. When I was a kid, I just went over to a friend's house to play. It was the same with my kids (who are now in their 20's). I just don't understand why everything is so formalised and cloyingly cute. Yuck!!! I personally see it as a good thing. Although at times you feel taken advantage of because other mom's dont recipocate. This is a meaningful thing and is important, even if you dont do it except once a week or bi-weekly. I do see it as a sign of lazyness although I mean no offence. Todays moms are very busy and it is hard to find time for yourself. So it is not unusual that you are tired. You are doing all the right things with your kids so if you really must forgo the playdate. Do it. I dont think your kids will suffer. playdates or no playdates, basic intention is to keep kids happy and active during leisure and holiday times. Because other moms feel playdate is important. You are not expected to follow the same rule. Since they are now 7 & 3.5, and enjoying with certain liberties given by you, you continue the same. As a mom you keep watch on them while playing, so that they do not get hurt. When my daughter was younger I set them up, I was new to the area, she didn't have anyone. As she has gotten older, I don't see the need. She plays with children outside, she goes to friends, friends come over-it more or less just happens. I do not see you being lazy as you go to the park, outside, etc. Just make sure if your kids ask to have someone over or to go over, say yes-once in a while doesn't hurt. It sounds like your kids are very active. My kids need playdates, because I'm a stay at home mom with four kids 4yrs old and under! It gets a little (ok a lot) crazy around here, because the kids tire of each other and we have to get out of the house. Good for you for limiting their time in front of tv! My kids tend to act up a lot when they watch it too much. You definately do NOT fit the description of a lazy mom! Just remember not to overtire them by getting them too involved in too many things. They'll let you know when they've had enough. The playdates thing is prob ok to skip, at this point. CONGRATS on being a great mom! |
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