My bf of 1 1/2 years became friends with ths kid about 3 months ago. I've always been hesitant toawrds this kid, (he rides street bikes w/o helmets, left his gf for another girl but still tries to hookup with his ex saying hell come back if they have sex, doesnt have any family/relationship values etc.) But my bf is obsessed with him. Now he wants to get a street bike, cut his hair like him, dresses like him, talks like him, go out to dinner with him, ditches his family, and changed his attitude and way he treats me when hes with him with the whole "bros before hoes" vibe, but when w/ me or family alone is who ive always known him as. If it were any other relationship, I would have been out in a snap, but in this past september a best friend (best guy/friend/person i ever knew) we both had died in car accident. It was so hard to go thru cuz it was his only real close friend.I would hate to tellhim not to be friends w/ this guy but scared hes turning into someone else. what do i do?
Talk with him about your concerns and see how he responds to you. If he seems to appreciate them and listen, then try to figure out what's the best solution. Tell him you understand he's still grieving over the loss of his and your best friend, and maybe he's trying to replace this best friend with this other boy, but you see this boy as a bad influence on him, which is demonstrated by how his behaviors had changed. If he's getting angry about it all, then there's no hope for him. Just tell him good bye. |
