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3 year old with friend down the street...are we over-reacting? |
My 4 year old daughter has made 'friends' with a little boy (also 4) down the street. She lets him ride her bike, and he lets her play with his new kitten. Both kids obviously in heaven with their self-made arrangement. The problem I have is with this little boy's father, and my husband gets the same uneasiness around him that I do.... His story - he is 50 years old, got some younger woman pregnant. After the birth, he kicked her out and got custody of the baby (?!) He has raised this little boy all by himself. I asked him what he did for a living, and he vaguely said that he has the 'type of job that lets him take the baby with him' (?!) He and his son have moved around quite a bit, and aparently his son always makes friends with little girls, & has never had a male friend (?!) He told my daughter directly that she can come over and play with the kitten any time she wants. Now she cries when we tell her that we don't feel good about it. Are we over-reacting??? Follow your gut and it will usually be right. I would be uneasy with this situation. I would not let my daughter over there. The best thing I can suggest is to supervise their visits all of the time. It is not the little boy's fault, so I don't know that I would end their friendship. Maybe suggest that he come to your house and play, or they strictly play outside at the park, supervised by you. I certainly would not leave my child alone in that house. not at all. keep a watch on this guy, and his son. poor kid. If your instinct says that something is wrong then no you are not overreacting. I failed to listen to my instinct once with my then 3 yr old daughter in a daycare situation, and suffice it to say that it was a mistake I will NEVER forgive myself for, even though the situation was caught and dealt with early. Always follow you instincts as parents, we have them for a reason and when listened to they are rarely wrong. If you have your internal warning lights going off, then NO you are not over-reacting. Do you have a picture of this little boy? Perhaps the father kidnapped the boy from the custodial parent and if you take a photo to the local police department the mother might be found? I don't know.. but follow your gut. I wouldn't cut the friendship off, but certainly use your best judgement. I'd let them stay connected but id tell them the little boy can come over with his kitten and they can play in my yard. I wouldnt let my daughter anywhere around the father. Its not the little boys fault his dads a weirdo.! You're being cautious & that's great. Whne your daughter wants to visit her friend & his kitten, make sure you supervise the visit. Your daughter is a bit young to fully understand what you're saying & feeling. no way bribe your daughter (kidding) |
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