My older boyfriend's daughter.

I'm 21. my boyfriend is 39. We have been together for a while and he treats me sooo good and i haven't felt this way with someone since my 3 year relationship a few years ago. We have A LOT of fun together, biking, fishing, hiking, boating, swimming, etc this one actually feels better. it just feels so right.
anyways
he has a daughter who's 7. She's really a good girl but like all kids, she has her moments. I nanny for a 7 and a 2 year old everyday so I have to deal with kids all the time. Sometimes I just want a break. I feel...i'm not sure what i'm feeling. I just feel really young to be having to care for a 7 year old. But i really love this guy and I feel like I want a future with him. We have talked about our own kids as well..but i can't even explain what I am feeling with his daughter. I just feel like I'm too young to be responsible for an older child. I want to live yet but I really love this guy. I know nothign is going to change but I kind of want to talk to him about how I'm feeling just so he's aware of my feelings about the situation. How do I bring it up to him? what should I say?

i dont even know what im feeling..i can't find the word that im thinking..

sit him down and explain it like you did to us

i love you, your so perfect for me because we are so compatible, and i really want this to work out, i dont want us to break up. Its really important for me that you realise this and dont get mad or missunderstand. I love your daughter, but at this stage with college to finish i do not feel i am emotionaly able to become her new 'mother', i dont want to end it though, but i feel so lost. And i am hoping that togheter we can solve this so we can stay togheter without this coming between us, i realise she will always be part of your life and mine if we stay togheter, but i need to be able to be more of a sister role to her then mother if that is posible...do you think we can work this out because i really think that this can be the rigth thing for me...and i think one day she could make a lovely big sis to our kids as well...i just need a few years to find myself and properly reatch the age where i feel emotionaly able to be a mother.

he has life wisdom, and well if your honest the likelyhood is you probably can solve this, he have to be her father wheter your togheter or not, so if he takes more of the responsibility he is not really doing anything he wouldnt have to do anyway even more so if you werent togheter

if he is alone he have to do 100%
its not unreasonable as such to ask can you instead of 50% please carry 70-80% till i matured enough to cary a bigger share.

couples solve things togheter, as long as your a couple then you dont solve your problems alone, you solve them togheter with your partner.

Get yourself a younger guy. Everyone had a go when I started dating a 17 year old when I was 14, but yours is just way off. You can do better
x

If you really love him you won't mind his kids. Just tell him how you feel on your next adventure together.

SAY IT



SAY IT!

oh just tell him!