Does all his family see us as a joke?

Okay I'm gonna make this as short as possible. My husband and I have 2 daughters and I'm 6 months with my third. I'm 25 yrs old and he's 29. Last year we drifted apart and one thing led to another and I was emailing my first love from like 7 years ago who is in the army and lives in north carolina (I live in california) who is also married with 2 kids. Well we both realized that it wouldint be worth loosing our families and cut off all ties so basically I never cheated only chatted on the computer. Well my husband was cheating on me with some girl his age who cuts his hair. This girl is also married with 3 kids and two differant baby dads. I don't know how long he was with this girl but I know it was at least 6 months. During this period of time I was working and hanging out with my friends and going to bars. We lived together and saw eachother a lot because this girl had a husband and kids and I noticed he would mostly be gone in the mornings so I never suspected anything. Well one day I was at work and he sent me a tex of a car crash he had seen that was on the news and at the end he wrote luv john. I didint really pay attention to the tex until later when I saw that he forwared it to another person and I saw the number on my phone. I called the number and it was her. She didint even try to hide there affair. She said that their in love and I was so imature and he needed a real woman and that's her and blah blah blah. Oh and that she's the one who bought him the cell phone and that he let her go through it all the time. I felt hurt but at the same time I felt relief. So then I called him and he started going all crazy and telling me he loves me and this girl is one of those beener mexicans and he was just using her for money (she posted a $500 dollar bail and he didint have a job) and he does not love her and she has her husband. Well all this turned out to be true. That day after work I went to talk to his older sister and she told me that his whole family knew about this! She told me to leave him and not let him see my girls and to get a restraining order. I kinda felt like she was happy this was going on because she even told me that this girl came to her house and cut her hair too. Well I did what she said and I left him and at the same time my friend was going through the exact same thing so I was okay and i had support. Lots of drama happend and lots phone conversations between me and that girl happend and they both changed their cell phone numbers. then Weeks later he was homeless sleeping on the streets and one day he called me and told me he wanted to talk to me about the girls and that he was in a hotel. I went and first thing I noticed was his bike was there and he had a new shirt with tags attatched hangin on a hanger, a brand new cd player and a 12 pack of coronas. He said he borrowed the money to pay for everything. Well I started drinking and got wasted. We talked and he said he wasint with her anymore and that he gave the girl back her phone. Well I was almost passed out when he started to have sex with me. I was on the floor when I looked up and saw a phone charger on the wall. I got up and yelled so loud for him to give me the phone and theatend to accuse him of rape which he kinda did and he panicked and handed the phone over to me. I ran out, got in my car and drove off. I was so dunk that I couldint drive so I just drove down the street. I got the phone and I called her. Well she was in shock. She's the one who payed for the hotel and was at home with her kids. She accused me of tracking him down and that I was lying about him calling me over. Lol !!! She was panicking about why I had the phone she bought him and telling me to get out of their lives. Hello? I'm the one with his children!! Well Drunk as I was I laughed and told her I just had sex with him! Thanx for getting us a room! She said I was lying and I was just so drunk I can't remember the rest. About two days later I was checking his voicemail on his phone and I heard a message from her saying that she understands and if he ever needs anything for him to just call him. She said the same thing over and over again so I pretty much understood that he really did leave her. Days later I was in a car accident and he was there taking care of me and telling me how much missed me and that he was going to change. Well I decided to let him move in for my two kids but I wasint gonna be back with him. Well he did change and he got a good job and it has been almost a year and now we get along great and were happy as if nothing ever happend. Like iin the 7 years we have been together, I have never seen him be so responsible. So now I'm here pregnant again and yes it was a birth control accident but were happy. It just feels like we both grew up a lot. So last night he was dj ing a party for the same sister I told you about and she asked me to take her to the bank to pull money out from the atm and on the way she said that I should have stayed with my two girls and I should have had an abortion she also said that I shouldint have took him back and that I should have got back with my ex and if I don't I will reget it for the rest of my life. She also asked me "you don't really love him anyways right?" why do you think she feels this way especially after we both changed for the better? It just really brought me down to hear that his family isint happy to see us doing good for our kids. Why would someone want to see a family be broken up like that? I know we both made mistakes in the past butwe changed and my girls adore their father. I would also like to know if you think he really changed for good. Oh and sorry for not making it short ; )

Wow that was reallllly long... haha but i would leave him.. it is sooo not worth it and you need a better role model than him for your kids.. if he did it once he'll do it again!

he sounds like a jerk, and so does his sister, probably because they were raised together. who tells someone they should have had an abortion? thats disgusting and rude. id avoid her if at all possible. and if you truly think itll work out for the best with your hubby, then his family should be happy for you. and if theyre not, ignore em.

she's only his sister, be polite to her but I wouldn't share to much personal stuff with her.. she sounds venomous