Am i being taken advantage of?

i have a friend (who shall remain unamed) who shows up at my house to hang out every day. I dont mind her being there but whats bugging me is that the only thing she wants to do is ride the new electric scooter i bought! then i remembered that she wasnt coming over every day before i got the scooter! And to make matters worse the scooter runs out of power alomst evry 15 minutes and has to be charged, and when we cant ride it we just sit around bored waiting for it to finish charging. She always wants to ride it and sometimes i just let her take it from my garage without me and she is perfectly fine with that! And thats not the only thing. She also always asks for these chewy bars i have that she doesnt have. Am i being taken advantage of? what should i do. And please i dont want any anwsers telling me to talk to her about it. Its hard to understand but i cant do that! our friendship is drifting away because of this and talking to her will only make it worse!!

to the person who made a racist remark about irish people; i reported you, you stupid imbecile!! and another thing she was my friend before the scooter, i mean we did hang out but it wasnt as frequent

When she comes over, I would just not answer the door. If another family member answers the door than tell her that the scooter is broken or that you've lent it out to someone.

If she calls to see if she can come over - tell her that you are busy - you have to go shopping or you have a family thing.

If you feel you can't talk to her - than avoid her for a while and see if she gets the hint! Either way you need to lose the user!

Good Luck!

yep, sugar, she is usin u...lose her...

Yes, she is.

If you think you are being taken advantage of...then you probably are. Go with your gut.

give it to her

Let it drift away. Don't make your scooter so available. Blame it on your parents.

she is definitely takin advantage of you. all she cares about is what you have, not you. get rid of her. don't let her use you. you ain't her ***** and you ain't gotta do what she want and give her what she want

To be honest there is no other way,she cant read your mind.

ask her to stop using you and to like you for who you are and not your stuff if she doesnt respect your request that graduallyt drift away

If you don't like her behavior, then put a stop to it. Don't ask her over. If she comes over tell her no scooter riding, that you have other things to do.

If you choose not to talk to her that's up to you...but it shows that the friendship isn't all that strong anyway...if you two were truly friends, you 'd be able to talk openly about anything.

act like ur scooter is broken and then see if she will come over then! and if she doesnt then that shows that she is usin u.... (( i think she is already using u)) but just to make sure that she is act like the scooter is broken or something...........
i know i would lose her if she dont come bak over til my scooter is "fixed" well before u got the scooter she never came over??? well then she iS USIN u! find BETTER friends and tell that gurl that she cant come over if she asks make up an excuse k?? hope i helped!! :D

This person is taking advantage of you. If you don't want to talk to her about it you can just say that the bike is broken. She will stop coming around and that will be that.

By the way, if you don't want to be taken advantage of in the future, you will have to get the guts to at least confront the people you feel are using you. If you don't do that, you will always be in this position; if not with this person then from someone else. I can understand why you don't want to talk to this person; the response you get from them is first a denial of their behavior and then anger at being accused. You don't necessarily have to speak to them; you can lie about the condition of the bike or get the nerve to tell them to not come around any more. You don't have to worry about that person's feelings; they are obviously not concerned with yours. End the sham friendship and enjoy your bike.

lose the user. Lock up the scooter and tell her it broke.

Okay, yes she is coming over for the scooter. Right now. But you say she was your friend before you got the scooter. Sooooo, she isnt really using you per say, just at this moment in time she is really into that scooter. LOL. But obviously you guys are young. I would say that as you get older friendships and their meanings will grow and deepen and become much more to you. Youll understand them differently. But for now just understand that just because she is going through this doesnt mean she only wants to be your friend because you have the scooter. Otherwise she wouldnt have been your friend before. But since you're afraid talking to her will make it worse, and you are probably right, she would most likely be offended since she isnt really thinking hard about what it looks like to you, you are going to have to make the scooter off limits. Tell her something about your parents not wanted it to be worn out or something. And they have put time restrictions on it. And let the friendship drift back to the way it was. Just remember that she isnt trying to use you. She just doesnt realize what it is looking like to you. She probably thinks, OH cool, my good friend got a scooter. We can ride it together. and thats it. She most likely wouldnt even consider that you dont want her to, because some people can be blind like that.

It is very hard to confront a friend no matter how close you are or have been. Its really hard to confront a close friend. If your asking this question, then you already know that you are being used. Always trust your instincts. Tell your parents that you feel this way or even an older sister or brother-heck tell a younger sibling if you need to. Tell her when she comes over that your grounded from it and no one can use it. Have the sibling back you up if need be by saying they are going to tell on you. Have your mom "remind "you that your grounded when that friend comes over. Tell her you ran out of chewy bars, and find a different snack. Suggest going to her house. I agree that sooner or later your going to have to deal with confrontation and the fact is your never going to like doing it. But for the time being rely on your parents to help you out. Thats one of the things we are here for : ). I helped my daughter out a few years ago and gradually taught her how to stand up for herself. It can't happen over night. And while you will always be nervous about confronting someday you will be able to.

I understand that your afraid of losing her as a friend, and
may be that's why you can't tell her your true feelings. If you are friends, then I don't see a problem in discussing how you feel. I know how you feel, my friend will only spend time with me when her boyfriend wasn't at home. They always complained about not having enough money, and will only come over to eat when we made groceries. They always
had money to go out too expensive restaurants.By you not telling her how you feel, will only make you feel miserable.
If she's really your friend then she will listen to what you have to say. I had to tell my friend how I felt about her spending time
with me only when her boyfriend wasn't at home, and them eating all of our food, now she understands and she's still my friend.

People do become obsessed with things (like the scooter) so you have to ask yourself, before you got it, were you satisfied with your friend? If the answer is "no" you need to find a way to get rid of her.

My suggestion: Join a club that meets after school and lock your garage door. You may meet some nice people at the club. When she tells you that the door was locked, remark, "oh, really?" If she pursues it, say that your parents must have gotten sick of people going in and out and that maybe the two of you can find another obsession.

There are a lot of things you can do besides joining a club but the point is, to be away from home, with the scooter charging soundly in the garage, until she gets the hint. If she keeps pushing you, simply look her directly in the eye and say in a firm, Barbara Woodhouse voice: "Enough already with the scooter." That should do the trick.

Let us know how it turns out!

um yea shes not being fair u should dump that sl.u.t and tell her to stop, even though she gets angry with u, remember shes being unfair with u, so u have the right to b mean with her!

Hey SIS. And guess what, I dont like being taken advantage of either! You really shouldnt leave your email running! BTW you have lousy grammer!