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Worried...feeling lonely? |
My fiance and I have been together for a little over 3 1/2 years. We plan to marry soon- few months- this oct. We're about 20 years old and loving life. I'm an aspiring singer and things are progressing very fast. He's an aspiring Dirt Bike Rider and he's just had surgery to repair his right knee. All in all, things look good and he's going to buy a truck soon to practice at the track more. Lately though, he's not very affectionate, he just seems like hes someone else since he's had this surgery. He says he very depressed staying at home all day- he doesnt go back to work until june or so. I bought a ring for him- just to show him im serious about us getting hitched- he told me he'd wear it but now he says it hurts his finger- after i paid 35 dollars to have it resized! ugh- i just dont want to waste my time but i also dont want to lose what i know is in there somewhere inside of him. Its like- when its good its amazing- and when its bad its horrific. Read more on the details... I believe him when he says he is depressed. When you do something that is in your blood, and all of a sudden it's taken away from you, it does something to you emotionally and mentally. My suggestion to you would be to support him in any way you can. He needs professional counseling to help him through this rough spot. All relationships go through ups and downs...that's part of being in love. If you truly love him love and support him all the while encourage him to seek help. Maybe he would be wise to talk with his father, or a loved one regarding his depression. I hope this helps! I don't know your guy, so I can't exactly say that there isn't something going on, but let me try and explain. Maybe he really is depressed after surgery. Being home all the time really is hard on a person. I remember when I quit my job and was home all the time for like 2 weeks. I was the worst person to be around (or so my hubby said) Especially if he is used to being at the track and such, then it is probably even worse for him. As for the ring, I bought my hubby a ring before we got married and he stopped wearing it because it hurt his finger too. I had it sized and everything, but it just wasn't comfortable for him. My suggestion is to talk it out with him and tell him that you need to know if there is something goin on because you love him, but if he is having second thoughts then you don't want to be lead on. I am working on my 3rd already and I can tell you from experience that just because he is distant doesnt mean anything but if you dont feel it there then dont do it it costs alot to get merried and costs even more to have it undone so just make sure you have no doubts before you get merried and yes there are relationships out there where you feel no doubts about anything sounds like he is just going through a rough time so just wait it out with him. that is the ups and downs of life with another person so if your not willing to do this from time to time then i wouldn't commit to him. |
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