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How can we boost our daughters self esteem? |
Our daughter is 11 and doesn't think she can accomplish anything. She gets nothing but encouragement from everyone in our family. She is one belt away from being a black belt in karate, but wants to give up because she has difficulty in board breaking (which is part of the test to get to the next belt). She doesn't know how to ride a bike, so we got her one and she has herself defeated before she's put her foot on the pedal. We've tried just about everything to encourage, motivate, even bribe her to accomplish or finish something and nothing works. Even the approach that nothing good comes easy works. Any suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks! Maybe try to get her involved in some type of girls teen group where she can share and bond with other girls for support, and im return maybe her peers can give her the encouragement and boost that she needs to become more confident in herself. It just may take her time to build confidence because its really a journey of self awareness. Once she is aware of her capabilities and understands her accomplishments then she will begin to believe in herself. I suggest therapy. She sounds depressed. How many children do you have and what number child is she? It might have something to do with it... I think she should see a professional counselor, they are excellent and can really help her learn how to think and be more positive...mine did for me! She should be extremely proud of herself for being just one belt from black belt in karate, that's already more than most girls (and boys) accomplish! As for as the board breaking, all she has to do is believe she can do it and she will be able to! I to stuggled with board breaking and just had a negative mentally about it until my instructor challenged me to break two boards at once. I really had to get myself motiviated and use self-talk to tell myself, "if my instructor thinks I can do it then I can"! And after the second try, I broke both boards and it was a huge self esteem and self confidence booster. It does sound like she is defeating herself before she tries and a professional to help find the root cause of what's really going on because she has the tell-tell signs that there is a deeper issue to be dealt with. Past experience with girls that young, even the little things count! praise her when she does anything right (finishes a chore, gets an "A" on an assignment, or whatever else.) also, have her accomplish things that she enjoys doing (teaching her dog a trick, helping prepare a meal, helping care for a younger child, etc) let her know that everyone has their strengths and weaknesses Explain to her that board breaking is simple and that she CAN do it; that she has already done it. Tell her to imagine that she's going through newspaper, and to invision herself going through the board. I am a black belt, and its the most rewarding thing i have ever accomplished. |
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