Have i let my husband to much rope, and why do i have to always ask for things.?

We have been married now for two years now. Husband is always with mates, mainly at the pub, or drinking to all hours back at there place. And can never be for a couple of hours. Always seems to be an excuse, it's the footy grand final, or someones bucks party every weekend. And then it's the long weekends he will go bike riding with them. I don't get invited because I'm the only girl. All these guys are single. Aged over 30.
We argue alot over this. he has a stressful job. I can understand guys need time with mates too, but how can i get him to balance this. I have left him before for this. Locked him out of the house, not giving sex. Me doing my own thing, finding things to do, instead of sitting at home by myself. The thing is when he does go out and comes home he thinks he has done nothing wrong. and then picks a fight, because he has been drinking. what do i do?

You need to go out one night he goes out and make sure you come home alot later than him, as this is one way to teach this sort of guy a lesson he needs to learn, as whats good for the gander is good for the goose. If he complains about it, your come back is, if he can go and have fun, then so can you as you are no longer sitting alone at home being unhappy while he is out enjoying himself. Now make sure you go out too with some female friends and have a great night.

And you didn't see this coming when you were dating?

Time to trade him in for a new and improved model..unless you LIKE sitting home alone....

He did these things before you married too right? Then you already knew his habits? You picked the wrong guy!!! Period!!

All these things he is doing? Thats a single guy doing all that, and the fact he doesnt put you and your marriage first?? All bad! You just made a mistake, I hate to say it like that, but its true.

Its kinda hard to change someone now when you already knew who he was before you married him. You dont have kids, so you have two choices, accept it and dont have kids..... stay married to him. Or, chalk this up as a learning experience and cut the ties that bind and move on.

Next time? Find someone who WANTS to be TIED down, with you, in the house, out of the house and maybe doesnt want you with him every second, but if you were? He would be great with it! Dont mess with a punk who wants to be attached and comfortable but still single!!

Dear, its really a normal but tough time for you, i agree. but firstly lemme tell you 1 thing that ur husband has developed a habit, which is the 2nd nature of a human being...drinking and staying out are the secondary reasons tht i believe. please never fight with him. try implementing things at home of his choice and demands,,,may look odd to you for certain period of time....but you will find him returning back home early . don't stop him 4 anything like drinking or going out......never point also for this......try love him more of his need but if doesnot feel having sex don't force him to do. A relation between the two is on the bridge of understanding and if he's not understanding you need to understand.try implementing dear...u'll find your husband serious abt your feelings as well.

Suggest using the rope for bondage sessions. That might keep Him in(terested) !!

While he's out at the club one night, pack your things and let him come home to an empty house, then you can go out when you want and not have to consult anyone and he can continue to act like a jerk.

Make that rope into a noose and tell him, what's he gonna do now?

Unless you want to waste precious years, dump him. Find someone who is more the family man and enjoys your company. You don't seem to have a real marriage anyway. He knows you will always be there. Even if you leave, you will come back. This is why he does this. Why stay with someone who chooses their friends over you? I don't think he was ready for marriage and doesn't want the responsibility.