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My husband is making us go broke? |
My husband loves cars and motorcycles which is fine. He has every right to have hobbies and I'm glad they make him happy. My problem is his little hobbies are making us go broke. It was fine when he liked to just do cheap little enhancements but now he needs new jackets, different lights, a carbon fiber hood. He neglected to pay his phone bill just to buy a jacket. te ca he uses to go to work (not his toy,which he wrecked) has a short in the wiring and he wants to know if he should buy sneakers or a digital camera. I try to talk to him about the way he spends money but he won't listen. He says he's young and wants to look back and remember that he had a bike, etc... The problem is we're broke now and have a child on the way. I would love to look back and say I had this and this too but I can't. How do I get him to be more responsible? You guys need to call Dave Ramsey. He a financial adviser that basically says "Act Your Wages". Or read his book financial peace. It talk about the poor trying to live the lifestyle like the riches Dave Ramsey? Who is he? Never mind. Just remind him, your husband, that you have a child on the way and he/she needs more money then his bike. A child is a life, he can get all his bike stuff later. You have to scare the holy hell out of him... if he won't listen to you now maybe he'll listen if you leave for awhile. It's time for him to grow up and for you to take charge of your life - for your sake and your child's. good luck! Good question. Tell him he's married and a dad now. No more wasting money. Hobbies are great, but that's why they are hobbies. Set up a certain amount of money per month for his "hobby" and once that's is gone, he has to wait until next month. I'm sure it's a phase he's going through, but he has a family to think about now and business first, fun second. He'll still have his memories to look back on, but it will be memories of fun and love with his family. I would get a separate checking account, do not give him your money when he asks, and move out until he sells some of those things. Tell him he will not be allowed to be around your child unless he has an appropriate car and seat and that he needs to prove his worth before you will get back with him. He is going to be a parent and his child needs to come first. Well, if he is more interested in a jacket then paying the bills, if he continues this pattern of spending even though there is a child on the way, good luck to you. If sitting down with him and agreeing on a budget does not work, then he is still a child and you my dear will have to raise 2 kids soon. Try to talk to him calmly about your concerns, if he can't change or see that he should be spending his money wisely then there is not much help for him. Sorry! |
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