My friend died?

I don't know really how to deal with death. It's the fact of someone losing their life. I just keep thinking about that they won't get to do anything everyone else does and it was an innocent death too. He was hit by a Tri-Met bus even though he was in the bike lane. He was wearing a helmet too! It is so unfair and I don't know how to cope with it. I'm too scared to face my counsler even though she's nice. How can I get over it? (not completely, but just so that I can concentrate on schoolwork without crying

hey i live right by there
yeah i was so sad when i heard. but i went to another high school in beaverton-graduated last year and every single year of h.s a friend i had that i actually talked to died and even this past fall a pretty close friend died.
i dont know what you're suppose to do , i think about my friends at least twice a day on my way to work. at first its bad then you just kinda start doing stuff and you think about it less and every once in a while you can a whole day without feeling sad over the fact but just think they inspired you to be the best person you could be. specially my friend that died most recently. i love that girl to pieces and even when she was alive i like really thought she was like a ****** angel . she was loud and funny and she was like the most beautiful person inside and out, and she loved live and she lost the most important thing and thats why I will never ever take it for granted. and when i think about her It makes me sad because shes gone but sooo happy that i even got a chance to know her. sorry for your loss.

Just try to understand that he is in a better place now. From what you have said it sounds like he was very young, and that shows us that God sent him to us to show a lesson to the people that knew him and even though not everybody will see that...it's there for a reason. You should feel happy for him because he wont be living in this world full of bad people, and feelings, and war and violence...he is free of all that now, he is resting in peace. Now, we have to pray for ourselves to always stay safe and following the right path.

I think you have to realize that your friend will want you not to worry. Your friend will need you to not use him as a subject to hinder you from excelling in school. Just remember the great things that you have done together with him. Be thankfull that you had the opportunity to be his friend at a point in your lifetime. He would want that.

You are going to have to work through all of the emotions you are feeling. It is perfectly natural to be feeling the way you are when a friend dies, especially at a young age. It makes you question the fairness of life, your own mortality, the very purpose of life. Someone to talk to to process these emotions is essentially the best thing to do right now, so maybe you really should go see that counselor. Along with that, I would get a journal and begin to write- write down all your thoughts and feelings, dreams, poetry, drawings-everything. Journaling is a wonderful way to release emotion and to sort out your thoughts. It really helps me. I hope it helps.

I am so incredibly sorry for you loss. As a therapist myself, I can't encourage you enough to share this information with your counselor, particularly the discomfort you experience sharing with her/him. Also, the path to feeling better often leads through very painful territory... but it's worth it in the end.

Death is a very difficult subject... 9 years ago today my brother-in-law was murdered, about 5 years ago my mother died of suicide... it often feels like life just stops. Trust me, it does go on and things will get better, slow as it may seem.

A book you might consider is ON DEATH AND DYING by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross.

Good luck. You are in my thoughts.

I am so sorry about your loss! just know that now someone
is looking over you every day. you are going to have to
grieve in your own way possibly, itry to take a few days off from school. if you want you can email your councelor.
trust me, they are their to help!
just take it one day at a time and soon you will be able to
cope with it. i lost someone and it was so hard for me,
but take it one day at a time.
best of luck to you!

It really stinks that accidently deaths do occur to the innocent ones, but I guess that's what life is set to be. There's nothing that you can really do, but pray for them to be in a better place. And yes, it does hurt, but also remember that their in a better place and that I'm sure their wishing you the best in life and want you to succeed without having to cry over them. They at least had a chance to live life, which I am sure means more to them than you'll ever know. Life is short, and time is always ticking. It's just one of those things that you'll have to move on, but never forget about that person. I hope you feel better.

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.Losing someone we love is always hard.Crying is a good thing,it's all part of the grieving process and will come and go for a long time.My mom passed away almost five years ago,and I still cry from time to time.Don't be scared to talk to your counselor.or anyone that will listen for that matter.holding feelings in never helps anything.So cry,scream,jump up and down...do whatever you need to do to feel better.Everyone deals with death in different ways and everyone has their own time,when one day they wake up and the pain of losing the person they loved is just a little more tolerable and you're able to deal with it a little better than the day before.Give it time.Right now it's still fresh and may even seem unreal,but eventually,given enough time,it won't hurt as bad.It will never go away,but it will get easier to deal with.I hope your heart heals soon.God bless.

You need to accept the harsh reality of him dying. I can't say I know how it feels because each of us have different reactions to other experiences. Don't be afraid to speak to your counselor and accept the help given to you, but that is just a suggestion. Besides, your friend wouldn't want you to be depressed and having bad grades, would he? Doesn't he care for you? Think of it this way: even if he's gone, he doesn't want you to have a bad future because of it. Tears are welcome with open arms, and don't worry. All bad things come to pass.

My sympathies.....