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I babysit these two kids and they NEVER listen to me!!!!! The boy is 8 and the girl is 6. They always take toys away from eachother and than start screaming at eachother. It takes me like an hour to get them to bed. They wanted to ride their bikes yesterday but I told them no because we couldn't find their helmets and their parents said absolutely no riding unless they wear helmets. I suggested we play basketball instead but the boy took his bike out and rode up a block even after I specifically told him no!!! They talk back to me and simply ignore me. I'm strict with them but fair and always try to have fun games or crafts for them, but with them it's their way or no way. Please, does anyone have any ways to make them listen to me and behave??? The best way to deal with children is to understand where they are coming from. Don't talk down to them. Talk to them as if they understand everything you say and then some. I have a 6 year old daughter, and if she doesn't understand something I say she asks me to explain what the word means. Since they are two years apart and ones a boy while the other is a girl I bet that they don't both want to do the same thing. So sure suggest a sports game for the fellow, but maybe something more less so for the girl. Something crafty or something that gets them both using their imaginations is always a good idea. Bring things with you that are different from what they have at home, and are things that would be interesting to each of them (this may be a trial and error type thing). What ever you do DO NOT allow either of them to go against the wishes of the parents. The boy should not have been out of your sight long enough for him to get on his bike and down the street. I would suggest that if this happens again you make them both stay indoors (Or in the backyard) for the rest of your time with them. As for bed time. I suggest you remind them that the have 1 hour before bedtime and then for their last thirty minutes have them get changed and let them pick out a book (or two) to read for bed time. You can either read to them in bed while they settle down or pile up on a comfy couch. And if they are well behaved you might suggest that they make a pallet on the floor and watch a movie they have picked out (no Action flicks stick with traditional kids movies if at all possible) You can even offer three book/movies for them to choice from. Or bring a bigger book like to popular Harry Potter books and read to them from that. if you make it a ritual then they will expect it. These things take time. Being even handed in how you "punish" kids isn't the only thing to be being fair. When you speak to them tell them how this makes you feel and ask how they would feel in your shoes. Use "I" instead of "you" as much as possible. Good luck to you. you need to be stric with them. i have babsited kids where they were not listenign so i had to use one of their nerf guns things to shott at them to get upstairs. you cant just simply say "no'. you must but firm with the kids and repeat you command at them. dont be afraid to be strict. it shoudl work! one thing a child cant stand is "time out" have them to sit in a chair and not let them up untill they can behave! it won't take much of that and they will learn to listen. i always tried to talk to them like adults untill they act up then just have them to sit down. (20 min. usually does the trick). good luck. experience Don't talk to them like they are your peers. ITs OK to be the babysitter the kids don't like because you are strict with them. Don't explain and don't negotiate. Young kids are basically little sociopaths and don't care about you at all. Don't give them an inch. Sure, you tell the parents that if the kids do not listen to you then they can find another sitter. End of story. I would suggest talking to the parents about the problem first of all, there is nothing a kid hates worse than having mom or dad know what is happening even when they are not there. At those ages, the kids deffinitely know better and are just seeing how far they can push the limits...time to get tough. One thing that worked with my niece and nephew when they were around that age was bringing a "babysitting diary" with me whenever I cared for them. The first time someone disobeyed directions I made sure they saw me writing in the book. When they asked what I was doing, I told them I was making a note about what they did (for example--riding bike without a helmet despite my telling them they could not), and would be showing it to their mom when she got home. I also kept some of those cheap star stickers in the notebook, so every time they did something good, I would write it down and let them place a star next to thier name. It became kind of a competition for them, to see who would have the most stars to show mom when she came home, and eventually I was writing down very little negative in the book. Good luck-and remember you are the one in charge!! |
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