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Embarrassing Parents? |
My parents are so embarrassing. i'm 13 and they treat treat me like my younger brother and sister and i'm sick of it. i know i am small for my age but what can i do? 1) they have a 9pm bedtime for me only 30 minutes later then my 9 year old bro and 7 year old sister. 2) they have a set bath schedule for me 3 times a week we all have to follow and they keep the door cracked at bathtime and still check on me 3) they don't let me watch anything other then g or pg movies 4) i am only allowed 1 hour of tv a day 5) if i get in trouble they put me in timeout or if it is really bad they still spank me like my brother or sister. 6) they make me wear a helmet if i am on my bike or skating. those are just a few of things. what can i do? Been there! From hindsight here is what I should have done (as opposed to what I actually did...): -Ask to have a discussion with them. Tell them you feel old enough to have a later bedtime. (although, what are you doing past 9pm, anyway? You really should get your rest for school!) Maybe negotiate a 9:30pm or even 10pm bedtime. I was a senior in high school and STILL had a 9pm bedtime. -If you prefer to take a shower everyday, ask them if it's too much for you to ask to get up before your brother's and sister's and take a quick shower. Let them know it's embarassing for you to have the door open and them checking in on you when you're nude. -Maybe they'll let you watch a "pg-13" or even ::gasp:: "r" movie if they are with you. Try picking movies that are somewhat educational or family films that you can all watch together and that you don't feel is degrading to your age or intellect. -You should only have 1 hour of TV a day. Trust me. -Ask for older, more appropriate punishments. Instead of time out, grounding. One week no TV and so on. Tell them that you don't feel a spanking is appropriate for your age and ask if they can come up with different ways to punish you, rather than the same punishments they use on your younger siblings. -I had to wear a helmet sled riding. If you're on a street, do wear a helmet. If you're in your driveway, ask them if they can relax that rule. Let them know you will not leave the driveway and will not be speedracer. If you feel you are old enough for all of this, then also realize that requires more responsibility from you. Keep your grades up in school, do chores for your parents around the house, be a good role model for your siblings...etc. The more mature you seem to your parents the more they will trust that you have good judgement and give you a little freedom. If they give it to you, don't screw it up. *Your parents have these rules for you (although overprotective) because they love you and want the best for you. Be thankful you don't have abusive parents or parents that just let you do whatever you want (I know it sounds great, but in the long run it's not. This is one of those "you'll understand when you're older"). They also have younger children who (i'm hoping) are a little more difficult to handle than you are. They may not have noticed that you're growing up so fast ::tear:: and would appreciate a mature conversation with you. Whatever you do, don't whine and yell that they treat you like a child. That will not get you anywhere. If the first conversation does not go over well, continue to handle yourself in a mature manner. Try again in a month. Also, remember your little siblings look up to you. Be a good example to them! Good luck! You are just 13 and a kid, and your attitude shows you are behaving like one. If you were more grown up they wouldn't have to tell you as you would be already doing what they want. It is called respecting the way they wish you to conduct yourself. When you do this for yourself then they will look on you as a bit more grown up and treat you accordingly. srry man but u are jus a little boy...everyone had it happen to them...its a part of life it'll be over soon just wait They sound a bit over-protective, especially if they're still checking in on you at bath time, but you should just be thankful that they care about you enough to provide you with that kind of attention. Besides, you are still pretty young. all of it, except for the cracked bathroom door, sounds fine,,,, tell them you wish privacy while bathing,,,,,, as to bed times, wearing a helmet,,,, you need as much if not more sleep then your younger siblings, and its always good to wear a helmet at any age! ENJOY IT!!! I WISH my parents cared about me as much as yours care about you. try telling them how there actions make you feel and explain to them why you feel this way. |
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