Husband in a bad wreck..lost one foot?

and mangled other.
For past month he's been doing nothing but whine about how sad his life is..He owns his own rig and drives for a living.
It's not like our lives were fantastic before the accident.

He did this while on his motocross bike and cant collect insurance through our carrier..
He might get disability but i told him there is a program where he can drive the rig with his hands. no feet at all.

he wont get off his sorry azzed butt and do something.
I dont want to be with another man but his cousin really likes me alot and has been coming around the park alot lately to take me shopping, and chores..but im starting to like him alot more now that we've been hanging out.

do I tell my husband I want out of the marriage or do I stick with him?

i want my old life back.

Wow. Sounds to me like your husband needs a more supportive WIFE!!

If you were in the situation he was in...would you want his leaving you for YOUR cousin?? Leaving you while your at your lowest?? Marriage is for better or worse.

FYI: I bet your husband does too. POOR YOU!!

ah life in the park,,,the trailer park.

well, if you walk out the door the chances are looking good he wont be able to follow you.

im sorry for the accident and i do realize you both are stressed out. maybe see counselor? i can't imagine whats going through your minds. but come on. try walking in his shoes. no pun intended.

Did you mean your VOWS in your marriage? What type of woman are you to give up on her husband when he's at his lowest? Another thing, there are too many men out there for you to get involved with if that's what you want other than HIS cousin....that is just low, and inconsiderate.

It was his choice to get on that bike. It's his choice to go on how he is now. If it were a different cause and reaction on his part, I'd say you should stay.
But he's solely responsible for his actions, especially the ones he is/isn't doing now.
You have a right to a good life still. Your life doesn't have to stop because he's decided his has.

his life will never be like before, he has a long road of recovery ahead of him now, it is up to him how he decides to face the issues before him, and for you, get yourself some good support, counseling, and regrouping and life one day at a time.

:Your old life as you remember will never be back that ended when your husband injured himself loosing one foot and mangling the other one..
Sounds like your husband is severely depressed and while he is down you want to kick him with the fact that you are interested not only in another man but his cousin, are you kidding?

You will reap what you sew........................................ Your husband does deserve better and for you to be acting like it is all about you is unbelievable.. Instead of whining about you and how you feel, have you given any thought to getting your husband the counseling he needs and deserves.....

Are you working? Probably not since you did not mention anything about you having insurance.. Why don't you go out and get a job and do what most wife's would do and that is take care of their husband..

Do you remember your wedding vows?
For Better Or Worse, In Sickness And In Health, For Richer Or Poorer, Till Death Do You Part......
So when your husband is sick no matter how it happened you want to cheat on him with is own cousin?

What goes around, Comes around, KARMA will come back around to you... .....

Classic example of no commitment.How sad.Glad it isn't your foot because he might leave you for your cousin.Get your self a job if you don't have one already and help him through this.If he doesn't do anything then maybe you should leave.He may be depressed.Some times people need help not traded in.Life is not a bowl of cherries so stop whining . We all would like our old life back but you know what life moves foward.

of course you stick with him and you look for every motivational cd, book, function you can find and both of you go.........lots of people do lots of great things with loss greater than feet; you have been blessed with a new life.......we can never go back....

Well you cannot have your old life back so you should stop longing for it. Your husband needs to do the same and should get some professional help to adjust to his new situation. The man is depressed and you are not helping things one little bit.

Did you not vow before God to stand by your husband in sickness and in health, for better or worse? Now you want to bail and take up with his cousin? I think that your poor husband will be a lot better off with out a self serving, two timing witch like you. You should be very ashamed of yourself and the cousin should run a mile from you because you are not wife material.

u need to tell him whats happening and if he doesnt straighten up u r outta there. at least he still has his life might as well get back to living...

i agree with gingygir...

Well I think you should leave him with the trailer. I mean you will move in with someone else anyway. I really don't know what he will do without your love and support but I'll bet he can somehow survive.

If your going to leave him then leave him. There is apparently an underlying issue here. You need to address what ever that issue is. Apparently you are not happy with your life. That is not his fault. Using the fact that he was hurt, and lost a foot, on a motorcycle is no excuse to leave. Marriage is suppose to be for better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health.

If your looking for your old life then go back to it. But i promise it will never be the same as it was. The grass is not always greener on the other side.

How would you feel right now if you walked outside and got hit by a car and left both of your legs? And your husband started messing with YOUR cousin and was just waiting, thinking about when he was going to tell you lazy no leg having self that he was feeling another woman because he couldn't get you out of your whining traumatic state of mind of you loosing a limb!!! I think that you really are more mad at the fact that you can't go shopping with no insurance money vs you being mad that he is probably depressed because the man has only one foot now geezzz didn't you say its only been a MONTH?? ---God Bless Your husband

You want your old life back - how about your husband you think he might want his foot back and his life back.

You are selfish ungrateful and hateful. Go off with the cousin and leave this man alone to heal in peace. Frankly I would get the hand control just to get in a drive away from you.

Tell your husband you want out of the marriage - I just hope that he doesn't fight to save his marriage...since you have amputated that too.

ditch the hubby... unless he changes warn him...

Your husbands a little sissy.A woman needs to feel Loved, protected and sheltered..You are getting none of them.

If he is a whiner, then odds are he was a whiner before accident.
don't let his foot problems interfere with your life.

move out ASAP!

are you that self centered
your husband should read this and kick your sorry #$&$ out
you should stick by him and help him get thru this ever hear of post tramatic syndrome

Your a real piece of dirt woman. It takes a year for that kind of thing to heal and your already sleeping with his cousin.

I almost can't bring myself to believe that you're serious.

This is your husband.. the person you, in theory, promised to love and stand by forever. He was in a horrible accident, and recently from the sound of it. He's in pain, and under a lot of stress, and you're surprised that he's depressed? Good thing he has a supportive and loving wife to make him feel like he's still loved and cared for, right?

Sorry, that was rude of me. But honestly, his life has changed drastically, and the shock of it probably has sent him into depression. Clinically depressed people often feel helpless to change their situation, and have a hard time motivating themselves to do anything past getting out of bed. Sound familiar? If you love him, then get him some help, and try to sympathize.

you are very ungrateful, just listing to yourself your husband is going thought a very difficult time in his life and the only think you can think about is that you want your old life back. how would you feel if you was in his position would you want your husband to leave you. life is full of changes what can happen it any time. you made a vow to that man for better or verse, sickness or pain till death do you part.

ditch the hubby..you'll never get anywhere with gimpy.

Yes, he鈥檚 feeling sorry for himself; that鈥檚 a normal stage of recovery, and he鈥檒l get past it 鈥?slowly on his own, or more quickly with professional help.

Eye-humping his cousin and bad-mouthing your hubby on the internet 鈥?those things aren鈥檛 helping. Just leave him, already. When he asks 鈥榳hy鈥? tell him it鈥檚 because he deserves better than a trollop-in-waiting who would cheat on her husband simply because he鈥檚 spent the last month grieving a major injury.

EDIT: I just went back through your other questions, you bag o' dirt. Would this be the same "husband" from two weeks ago - the one who lost his tongue to cancer? LOL

Well, at least I know you're only an attention-whore, and not a ruinous ***** who has the opportunity to dump a real husband for losing his foot.

Ask his cousin over to help you rotate the tires on your mamas trailer and ask him if he wants to have a ice cold coors with you and take it from there.