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Dad why do you treat my brother differently then you do with me? |
For years now my father has always put my older brother first No matter what my bro does my father shows love for him. My brother has been on drugs and lived in the family home whilst using them and my father didn鈥檛 do anything about it. My brother has smashed and blown his cars engine up and my father pays out for it to get fixed. When my brother was 12 my father bought him a computer worth $800 And a professional skateboard which was worth over $700 I on the other hand I never got anything; my dad doesn鈥檛 show any affection towards me. My father isn鈥檛 really a father because he lives another life and its been that way for a long time鈥鈥檓 nearly 30 and my dad still treats my older brother the same as he did when he was a kid鈥 on the other hand am a quiet sensitive kind of guy鈥?br /> When I was little I was sick a lot with asthma and spent a lot of my days in hospital I remember when I got home from hospital my bro would have all these new clothes toys etc and I had the same old things鈥?br /> I remember once day I when I was about 10yrs old I went to Toy world and saw this plastic lawn mower, you know the ones that have plastic grass inside that all fly鈥檚 up when you push it鈥?.Well back then it I thought it was pretty cool.... I wanted it so bad, that when I got back home I asked my dad if he could buy it for me. I remember he said that on Christmas day it would be under the tree鈥?br /> Well when Christmas came I didn鈥檛 see it 鈥y brother on the other hand got a new bike鈥ven to this day when I鈥檓 in a toy store and see one of those mowers I run up and grab it 鈥ol鈥ut deep down I remember that sad Christmas day鈥?br /> When I was about 17, I met a girl and thought it would be cool to bring her home, when I did my father yelled at me and told me to get her out of the house鈥?my brother on the other hand had his girlfriend living in the house and my dad accepted it. I don鈥檛 get it鈥? I鈥檓 a good fella, I did everything right by him, my brother hasn鈥檛 and still to this day鈥?he treats me the same I鈥檓 not as worried about it as I use to be鈥?but when the family gets together I feel like I don鈥檛 belong there, my dad gets along with everyone except for me鈥? I鈥檝e tried to get to know him but he just shuts me out鈥nd when I question him about it he yells at me鈥︹€?br /> When ever I feel this way I go off alone to be with Christ, maybe my dad doesn鈥檛 see me But I know Jesus is happy to see me. Who else has a father out there that treats you like you don鈥檛 exist? 鈥淕od bless鈥? thats me. my dad treated my brother like a friggin god and me like horse crap. whatever i did my brother always was better. and he treated my brother better, he abused me and i may never see him again but he treats my brother like an actual person.... Source(s): life sucks get use to it Ask him! My parents don't treat me so, but they tended to put all the blame on me, as the oldest. I had to do EVERYTHING - chores. Think of it this way - you are quiet, sensitive, and know not to be on drugs. Your brother on the other hand is probably more spoiled? You'll have more opportunities as the nice guy! we all feel for you... but the grass is always greener on the other side... think this way might make you feel better... there is other family or person are living much worse then you... having a family is easy... maintaning a family is difficult ~ I am 35 years old and sometimes parents tend to give other siblings more attention because they are more needy. You may be the smarter one and your brother may need to be guided by your father more than you do. Go and stay with your mother you do not deserve to be abused regardless of wether you will have relatives on your mothers side or not. God has a way of working things out, you have to trust and believe that God is in charge and you just need to let go and let God. I pray that you make the right decision and go stay where you are safe from harm. BE BLESSED! Yes I had the same from my Mother and Father. Like your situation my brother was often in trouble,yet in my parents eyes he could do no wrong. I felt unloved and unoticed my whole childhood so I can relate to your obvious pain. My brother even calls himself"prod" - short for prodigal son as he knows whatever he did or does they will always welcome him back. I dont think the pain ever really leaves-I am 37 now and still struggle with it.All I can say though is this-you have clearly grown into a sincere and sensitive person,therefore life will bring you its own riches. I hope,like me you will someday realise that this is your parents flaw,and no reflection on you. For one thing,my childhood taught me how not to parent.I have 3 lovely children of my own,and each one knows how much they are loved and valued. Following an argument last year I am currently estranged from my Parents.Whilst I could not say I am happy about it,there is a sense of releif as there is no more put downs and critisims.My mother even told my children how she never liked having me around as a child-and that for me was just too much. She was going to hurt them,and affect thier emotional well-being so I called a halt to it. Be assured-some people just are unable to be fair and balanced when they are parents but this is not the fault of the child. I hope you have a happy life of your own,and if you ever become a parent I'm sure your kids too will benefit from what you've learnt. |
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