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Miserable Marriage...feel like single mother.? |
Me & my hubby got married in 2000 (together since 1996). We argued so much that I left him for a month and a half. Still kept contact with each other, went on a few "dates", still had sex, but lived seperately. We got along better apart than we did living together.During our little seperation, I found out I was pregnant (his, of course). So, we figured I'd move back in, raise our child together, and try to save our marriage. We now have a 4 year old son. About 2 years ago, I've been feeling unhappy (miserable) with our marriage. He works day-turn (ironworker), eats dinner, and usually sleeping around 7-8:00 pm on his recliner. So he doesn't spend much time with our son as I'd like him to. I'm with my son 24/7 and take him everywhere I go. If he goes to a store, he won't take him.I built him a treehouse,taught him to play baseball, ride a bike, learn numbers, abc's, etc. He procrastinates everything. He starts something, doesn't finish it. I feel unloved, no attention.help? sounds like you already know what to do.....move out......he might even have an epiphany and miss the two of you, if he does..great....if not, find a man that wants to be an active part of your lives. Divorce isn't the worst thing that ever happens to a person, sometimes it is salvation. Sounds like it's time to hit the EJECT button hon. You've tried a lot of things and it just isn't working. It's not your fault really, so feel no shame in throwing in the towel. sometimes all the stuff builds up and leaves you with ALOT of resentment and the ability to forgive and move on just is not there...it seems to me that most men leave the raising of kids mainly to mommy and have little to do with the kids,my ex rarely sees my oldest daughter,but my husband treats her JUST like the 2 we share together and has more interest in the kids than my ex ever did/would have!!! NO he doesnt do as much as Id like him to do with our kids,but I tell him the things Id like to see and he works harder when I bring it up! think truely do you want this relationship to work,if you do you can not change him,but you can yourself! try turning all comments,"gripes" into some form of a positive,always compliment what he does and thank him for things,if he hugs your son,say I LOVE it when you show him affection and so does he! encouraging can only help! its hard to stop the constant sayings of you dont do this,or you shouldnt do that,the negatives,but if you do,even if you dont do the negatives,add more positives and maybe he will too! if he doesnt,rethink what you want and need! you and your son deserve to be loved and cherrished! and staying JUST because of a child is never a good thing! and kids are better off out of the negative gloomy atmosphere! good luck Sounds like you two really need to sit down and talk. Communication is the key to a good marriage. If he is not being the kind of father you need him to be then tell him. I work swing shift and have 3 kids, I know how hard it is to work and be active in my kids life but I'll give up sleep before I stop being a good father! If you keep feeling this way and don't do anything about it then you are most likely going to have a failed marriage! Talk work things out or be prepared to walk away! If he doesn't want to work on things then start preparing for your future! |
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