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Rough situation for me, how to deal with the anger when I don't have all that much to be angry about? |
My boyfriend has been without a job for awhile and just today got a job at a bike shop. The bike shop hours are from 11am till 8pm, and it's about 30 minutes away from our home. I DETEST this, and he knows it. I know he needed a job so that part is ok, but the fact that I'll pretty much never see him is not ok. So anyway, I'm already unhappy about that news and then I get home and he tells me that his sister told him something that happened to her that made him angry, so he's going to spend the night at his friends house and play paintball in the morning. He doesn't tell me WHAT happened with her, and he didn't spend ANY time with me, he just left without a care about me. I'm really so unhappy and angry right now. How the HELL do I deal with this? I can't be totally angry at him because I'm not a b*tchy girlfriend who's going to give him s*it for doing something without me, but...but I'm still mad that he just left and is seeming to care less about me right now. GRRR what to do!!! I understand exactly what you're talking about. Just let some time pass..I know it'll drive you nuts but try it. Figure out how you feel after a while. Oh you could ask him when he gets home what happened or how you felt about it...if he doesn't listen or acts like an *** then forget him. Hope that helps. take a deep breath you are really getting upset over something so small:) just chill and when he calls tell him how you feel about the way he left but tell him in a calm voice. HEY! THIS FRIEND MEANS MORE TO HIM THEN YOU. I WOULD TELL HIM HE WOULD HAVE TO LIVE WITH HIS FRIEND. I've been in similar situations more times than I would like to remember and as much as it sucks and you just want to yell and scream, the best thing to do is take a step back and just trust him and what he says. Just because he hasn't told you what happened with his sister right away doesn't mean that he never will. My boyfriend owns a moving company and sometimes has to go to job sites that are far away and that last all day. I trust him with everything I have, but I still don't like it for reasons I can't define. Finally, I just told myself to take a deep breath and let him do his thing and things are fine. It's ok to be angry, but don't be angry towards him. Give it some time and things will pan out. PS - I'm a 19 yr. old chick using my b/f's account in case u were wondering since the profile is for a guy. lol. I would be thankful that he has a job, especially if he has been without one for awhile. You will make the adjustment to his hours, and the reality is if your relationship can not make it through a schedule adjustment you are pretty much doomed anyway. I would be concerned about him leaving you, and to go to his friends house to play paintball--it sounds that maybe you are taking this relationship a little more serious than he is and you need to get this into perspective with him Talk to him and find out where he stands in all this. Let him know you are angry that he left without giving a crap about your feelings at the moment (even though they are a little childish). Talk to him, call him on his cell whatever--and handle your business!!! Staying angry isn't going to do anything for you. Well I do understand where you are coming from. However, you are really working yourself up. He has just started a new job and that can be stressful, so a little outlet will be good for him. When you are angry, it changes you and you aren't pleasant to be around, so you want to avoid anger cause it's hard to hide. Did you ever look in a mirrow when you are angry ? I have and I didn't like what I seen at all. Your question is worded smartly. Read it over and over, I have, it speaks to you !!! I just reread your question note and I think your anger is driving him away. He needs to be away from you so he can get his mind on something besides the same ole same o. I'm sorry Honey, its like a light just came on. Work on your attitude and be sweet if you want this relationship. Good Luck & May You Be Blessed~~~~~~Jill~USA you can understand that he was upset and and he has the stress about a new job .. and talk to him and work a schedule out so that you do have time to see each other even if its while you brake for lunch .and then aging it could just be a 1 time thing give it time things can work out calm down and talk to him sometimes men do not think that they are doing something wrong even if they are so talk that is all i think you need ... |
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