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I don't want to be married, dating or in a relationship -- Is that weird? |
I am a 45 year-old married woman that has never had children. I find myself increasingly becoming irritated with my husband (who is 9 years older than I am). He is only 54 but you would think he is 94 the way he carries on. Already gets AARP magazine, can't hike, can't bike, can't jog, etc. Has all these health problems (diabetic), etc. Wants to go to antique shops on the weekends and is always worried about what we are going to do for supper. Aaarggghhhhh!!!! I want to go work out (gym) after work, build a barn this summer for my horses, hike the Grand Canyon someday, etc. I don't really care whether I eat supper or not! I AM NOT READY TO BE OLD YET!!!! I don't want another relationship, in fact I really find myself increasingly wanting to be "left alone" to do my own thing. Should I just "do my own thing" and if he can keep up so be it, if not, then I guess he should just eat my dust? What do you think will happen? Enjoy your life, Linda. well u have been committed to him for so long and guess if he had your type of thinking and did it to u how would u react? ,i thinks it time for some compromise he doesnt sound a bad man but u sound like u r getting into menopause and hormones r taking over ,dont rush things u might ruin them and regret it later you need a young man, or young woman in your life, if your thinking about switchin sides... anyways your just sick of feeling like your old, and your not old, he is, and if you are not compatable/happy then you should split, idk about you not wanting to be with someone cause only depressed people dont wanna have someone. but listen to your heart do what you wanna do, and dont let a daily grind bum you out, take control of your life, and it sounds like you need a fountain of youth and a shot of excitement, good luck have fun and dont forget to stop while your there and take a few pictures for the archives I sympathize with your situation completely. If I was you I would just go do your thing alone. But keep in mind the mentality of a scuba diver and don't do things by yourself that would be dangerous doing all alone. Hes ready for the rocking chair and you're not. Do home things together and away things alone. That's what I would do. As far as taking him along and leaving him in the dust. Not what I would do but that's your decision. Good Luck. i feel the same way...what i did i started doing things on my own....and got the feel of it...it felt so good....to enjoy my life i left her....and that has been the best decision ever.... Just do what makes you happy. He needs to learn to accept you as you are, and vice versa. Acceptance is key - that's the only way it will work. Tell him what you want to do ... his choice to be involved or not. He can stay home and read magazines while you go out and hike - you can both win ... or lose by trying to get the other to come around. You only live once, and you clearly want to live.... now is your chance! Maybe his interests are older but there's no reason why you can't go do your own thing with your own friends and join some community group or something. |
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