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Boyfriend is acting different...am i just being sensitive? |
my BF of two years ( we were close friends for 3 years before we dated) has taken me ring shopping and we have even looked at a few houses together.neither have happened yet. i told him about a house the other day and he said in a rude tone "ok, well were not going to look for a while" (we are currently living together) and the whole gettign engaged hasnt happened. he keeps saying its going to but he needs the money.the thing is,he just got a new truck! (he only had a motor bike B4 that) well, he recently picked up 11 extra hours a week. he works construction, and he works very hard. but since he picked up those hours hes been mean to me. his tone is very rude, and the other day he wanted a guys night and we hadnt seen eachother all day! he says i get mad to easily, which i am working on. but i dont want to lose him, cus i love him so much...but what do you think is going on? He could be trying to get HIS life where he wants it. He is not going to be able to really commit to anyhting with you if he feels that he hasn't accomplished everything he wanted for HIM. He wanted a truck before he bought a house or a ring. That is fine. Besides if he had given you a ring you would be expecting to get married in a timely manner right? As far as his mood swings he did pick up extra hours at work. He could be really stressed out. He may not have wanted those extra hours but felt he had to either becuz of financial reasons or the job required it. Either way it would be stressful. Let him have his guys night. Especially if he is stressed. It is not that he doesn't want to spend time with you destressing, but you COULD be one of his stresses. It seems that he had every intention of taking the next step. But something happened to make him question it. Look...I got pregnant in '04. It was unplanned.At the time I was with him for 8 yrs. When she was born he was always gone. He was going out almost every night of the week, taking vactions etc. He just felt that he wasn't able to continue going out and traveling as the baby got older. So he was trying to do as much as he could so he didn't feel like he was missing out. Mind you I just knew this, I didn't have to ask him. I am not saying it was easy for me to go through this, but I am GLAD I did. We are still together 10 yrs strong and he realized really quickly that I wasn't going to keep him away from his friends or travleing. It is healthy to have a life outside your family or b/f. Keeps you sane. He has bought my ring but has yet to ask me. But I am not going to push the issue. When he feels content with himself and how HIS life is ( career, money, car, etc....) that is when he will ask me. I would talk to him. You need to be more supportive. Quit bringing up the house and ring right now. You are bringing things up that he can't deal with. Sit down with him and calmly ask him how his job going. Ask him is there anything you can do for him. Let him know that if he needs to talk your there. Even if it is to vent. You'll listen. When you guys are home, give him a gentle smack on the butt as you walk by or just give him a kiss and walk away. Text him saying you were just thinking of him. Make his favorite dinner. Little things can let him know your there for him without saying a word. Things will get better honey. COMMUNICATION is the key here. Talk it out. Good Luck sweetie. work is killing your bf and wants me time when he gets home well babe things arent going the way u r thinking.boys do get the tendency to bend more towards their loved things. live un relation is a bad idea.man n snake looks for only two things: HOLE. beware of that. |
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